They Don't Come with Manuals
Parenting Children with Disabilities
By Paul Uzee

"I love my child, but I hate the disability." Raising a child with a physical or mental disability is an awesome responsibility, but the parents and adoptive parents who speak in this film are meeting the challenge. This video is an unsparing look into the real world of coping with disabilities: money is tight, marriages are strained and, all too often, help is nowhere to be found. A wide cross section of parents speak candidly of the day-to-day difficulties of raising children who have handicaps of various types and severity. These parents have had to face outside resistance and ignorance, but have found ways to meet the special needs of their children nonetheless. They offer hope and compassion to new parents facing these issues.

29 minutes
© 1988
Purchase $149 VHS
Order No. QA-038
ISBN (VHS) 1-57295-038-2

Reviews
"Marvelous for helping parents articulate their experiences, and for giving professionals and in-depth understanding of what parents go through." Ginger Clubine, Assn. Of Retarded Citizens of Nebraska

"A must see for any professional working with children who have disabilities, and with their parents." Occupational Therapy Week

Awards & Conference Screenings
National Council on Family Relations
American Psychiatric Association
Assn. for Persons with Severe Handicaps

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