When state-funded institutions for people with developmental disabilities were closed down throughout the United States, few families mourned their loss. But it didn't take them long to discover that the promised alternatives programs to care for family members at home and in the community were neglected and underfunded. Today, throughout the US, exhausted parents are providing all day, every day care for their developmentally disabled loved ones, while simultaneously battling for the help and resources they need.
For 18 years, Rob and Betsy Holl have taken care of their profoundly disabled daughter, Megan, at home, with no help. Now middle-aged, exhausted by the constant stress of juggling Megan's unrelenting "tag team" care needs with the demands of raising their other child and hanging onto their jobs, they feel that they have hit the wall. The Holls applied to Florida for help in 2001 but are still waiting, as are 200,000 others in that state, and thousands more throughout the US.
Marsha Desso and Larry Kessler might be considered luckier. Their son Stuart was born autistic in 1957. As a violent young man, he was restrained in state hospitals and jails, but today his elderly parents are able to care for him at home with the assistance of a state-funded caregiver. The state is cutting back, however, and Stuart's care budget is in growing jeopardy. Facing cancer herself, Marsha wonders what the future holds for her son.
These are stories of frustration, disappointment, and occasional joy. Both families demonstrate the power of love and courage under the most difficult circumstances but how long can they do it alone?
"This is a very important documentary, but not easy to watch it is grittier and tougher than any tough guy movie. Most Americans still think that if you have disabilities like this, you have the help you need. Most Americans are wrong." Sue Swenson, Executive Director, ARC of the United States
ďThe film is constructed to make the viewer want to stand up the minute itís over and march off to Tallahassee to demand redress. In that sense, the docís brevity is in its favor. It scores its hits and gets out, leaving no room for the delusion that having watched it was involvement enough.Ē Steve Schneider, film critic, Orlando Weekly
Awards & Conference Screenings
Freddie Award, International Health
and Medical Media Competition
Best Documentary, Reno Film Festival
Director's Citation, Black Maria Film Festival
Florida Film Festival
Newport Beach Film Festival
Best Documentary Nominee, Central Florida
Television & Film Association
Crystal Reel Award, Florida Motion Picture Television Association
Picture This... Disability Film Festival
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